Be empathetic enough 20/11/2014

  Be empathetic enough 20/11/2014

I think it is very unwise/unmindful of Voon Shiak Ni, PKR National women vice chairman to say, “Never abandon your kids, problem parents told”.  I think she should be empathetic enough to view the plight from socio-economic perspective, ignorance of where to get assistance, look for the representative, the community leader and the condition of desperation.

Saying like this to the said illiterate and ignorant single mother is out of context and it sounded more like “sprinkle salt to the wound”.   It is apathetic/mindless to say like that.  I believe this lady was in the dark where she could seek help.  After she had divorced from her husband without any alimony to keep up the minimal life expenses, her income working as a helper in a coffee could hardly keep the life going.

So she only brought along a son whom, I guess may be fathered by her new husband.  It was actually not her first intention to abandon them.  Things happened when the relative she entrusted the children failed to make them feel comfortable with her.  So they left the place for good on their own accord without knowing the danger lurking around them.

I believe the children now are in the better hand to be brought up.  At least they are at a better place to get education and nutrition for proper growth.

I see that something has gone really wrong in the late 33 years as a result of long years of negligence and apathy of the rural development and growth.  Thus there have been an influx of rural to urban migration.  The displacement left many people in dire straits ending up in low paid job for a decent and comfortable living.

I hope Ms Voon will think and see  the problem from socio-economic perspective to understand the desperation of parents who resorted  to abandoning their children intentionally or unintentionally.  I believe in future, there will be more occurrences of such plight of parents who are forced to abandon their children for good out of desperation.  As I believe the extreme of wealth distribution between the rich and the poor is the main cause of this problem.

In my mind’s eye, I see that the children are at a better place though in separation with their parents.  I really see this be the curse of our BN government who fails to develop the rural areas and create job opportunities for people to earn a decent living.

The said single mother, I believe, is as helpless as her daughters needing of support, knowledge and good advice to live at ease with herself and the world.